The Fine Art Of Dating Yourself

The concept of dating is always associated with another person. We often depend on others to show ourselves love and kindness and get frustrated when we don’t receive enough of it. Dating yourself or going on a solo date is never discussed enough and many of us do not know what that looks like or why we should do it. But I am here to tell you, regardless of your relationship status, dating yourself is one of the great forms of self care/self love routine that you can show yourself.

We stan a self aware queen and when you date yourself, you have a chance to find out how amazing and fun you are which creates a deep appreciation and love for yourself! You get to own yourself and embrace all the perfect imperfections that make you YOU. If you are single, it helps you remember that you are looking for someone to add to your already fulfilling life. PS, it is very hard to be disappointed when you are the one setting the bar!

So, here are some of the ways you can start dating yourself without having to break the bank.

Go on on a solo date

Those things that you will do on a date with a partner, go do them by yourself! Only now, you can actually choose all the activities and experiences that bring you joy and fill your soul. Do you love good food and music? Wear your best outfit and go out to a cute restaurant for dinner. Do you enjoy reading books and the outdoors? Go on a picnic and enjoy a good book under the sun. Or you can choose to have a night curling up to a good movie indoors. The possibilities are endless, as long as you drop all the expectations and reflect on what you truly want to do. Remember, don’t forget to have fun while you are at it!

Start a mindful practice

There is a lot going on in the world right now, and we can not entirely escape the chaos that is all around us! Taking time for you is the best date that you can give yourself to nourish your soul when you are feeling tired. Be present in the things that bring you joy, invest in your mental health and wellness. Practicing mindfulness involves activities like journaling, meditation, breathwork, etc. The important thing is to keep showing up for yourself even for the little things!

Retail therapy

I don’t know about you, but my love language is receiving gifts. Instead of waiting for others to send you gifts, show yourself love and buy things that make you happy, confident and overall better. Whether that be a pair of shoes, clothes or jewelry, do not go overboard and break the bank. It is your hard earned money, so spend it wisely for things that will make a difference and add into your life. Money can’t buy happiness but can buy you things that make you happy.

Dating yourself is meant to celebrate you and it is not selfish. If you have not done this before, I urge you to try some of the ideas listed above. It gets easier the more you do it! Let us know what are some other things you do to enjoy your own company!

By : Christine Gimonge